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Suicide – The New Epidemic

The reality of depression and suicide among active military, veterans, law enforcement, school children, mental health consumers and the general population has continued to skyrocket.

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Training for Mental health professionals, police officers, school officials, and military commanders is providing better ways to identify and treat depression, PTSD, anxiety, and drug use that play a large role in both attempted and completed suicides.

The link below from the American Psychiatric Association identifies what Depression looks like!

https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/depression/what-is-depression

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Time Management

Why Worry About Time and Its Management?

Why We Juggle Time Poorly

If you feel as though you are always having to juggle time to do what is expected of you, then learning better time management can help you master time instead of time mastering you!

As an Expert Level Time Management Coach, and someone who has manage organizations of different sizes, I have learned a great deal about how we view this thing called time.

In Ecclesiastes 3 and Chapters 1-22, there is an oft quoted scripture about time.  I reference it here, not as a advocate of any doctrine, but because it tells us that the problem of time has been discussed for a very long time and this particular scripture, gives us a perspective on time and how priorities in life often determine how we use time.  

https://biblia.com/bible/esv/ecclesiastes/3/1-22

Time as a unique phenomenological structure created by the human mind’s ability to segment reality into distinct quantifiable units is not found outside of humans. As such, the mind as difficulty releasing its focus away from timed events and simply entering into a state of mind-less consciousness that feels as though boundaries have vanished.

This sensation or lack of time experience is extremely difficult to maintain for any length of time. The natural response is an experience of becoming disoriented and experiencing anxiety.

Perhaps, underlying this anxiety is another unique aspect of being human that is found inside our unique brains. The neurological structure of the brain and the mind that is contained within it, can only vicariously experience death through the witnessing of anthers’ death.

From this witnessing of the “end of another’s time”, we gain the concepts of beginning and end, past and future, as well as start and finish. Those concepts are entrenched in all languages of the world.

Time, as reflected in a watch or clock is observed to exist externally and visually, However, physicists have argued that time has no reality to it!

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To win at what you are doing requires FOCUS and a Strategic Model for success

Retirement Planning

Often, thinking about retirement can be difficult because we are not sure what questions to ask and where to start. So lets start with asking the Why, When, How, and Where.

Retirement Before or After Covid

The Covid Pandemic has undeniably changed the answers to many of the above questions, especially the when and the where. Economic stability concerns and travel restrictions, are new elements in the retirement equation.

A good example of how the travel restrictions have played out is the surge in Recreational Vehicle sales and Pick-up trucks.

With fears about safety and sanitation on airplanes and in hotels, many individuals have sought the freedom of the open road.

Prices have skyrocketed due to limited manufacturing supply in both sectors and high demand for existing inventories. Spaces to rent in RV parks have been difficult to come by without advanced reservations.

No doubt, these purchases were not previously planned and were not on many peoples radar until Covid changed our daily routines.

Asking the Why?

There are lots of reasons to retire aside from your financial readiness. Sometimes retirement occurs because of an unexpected threatening medical issue.

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Post Divorce Adjustment

Divorce occurs in approximately 50% of formal marital unions.

Sometimes it happens in the early years of marriage and sometimes it happens after decades. In either case, your pain and confusion from such loss can be devastating.

Legal process, involving adversarial attorneys, depositions, filing, witnesses, testimony, and attorney’s fees can leave you traumatized and usually financially busted.

 

It’s common to go over the experience repeatedly in your head, long after the divorce is FINAL legally.

Irrespective if you initiated it or your former spouse did. explaining what happened to children, relatives, and co-workers is difficult to say the least.

Divorce can make you feel isolated and rejected while it is occurring and long after it is over. This can lead to difficulties in your daily functioning for quite some time and often involves unexplained anxiety and depression, and even occasional suicidal thoughts, which drains you emotionally and spiritually.

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Links By Category to Other Resources

The links listed below are by listed as categories and include information on the following topics:

Veterans, Mental Health, Policing, Retirement Planning, Traumas, Covid, Anxiety, Dementia, Alzheimers, Step Parenting, Time Management, Human Sexuality, Mental Illness, Pre-marital Counseling, School Violence, Depression, Military and Civilian and Suicide.  I have also included writings from my Renditions Blog. We cut the chain on the resource fence for you.  So now, “Just click and go!” 

Veterans

When Warriors Put On A Badge

https://www.themarshallproject.org/2017/03/30/when-warriors-put-on-the-badge

Headspace and Timing Podcasts on Military Suicide

https://veteranmentalhealth.com/podcast/

A Marine Veterans Story

https://youtu.be/-3nGL9E4fn0

You’ve already served your country

https://cops.usdoj.gov/pdf/vets-to-cops/Vets2CopsBrochure.pdf

Headspace and Timing – Veteran’s Mental Health Podcast

https://player.fm/series/head-space-and-timing-podcast

Mental Health

Weather Trauma

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-trauma-after-the-storm/

Dealing with Coronavirus Anxiety

https://youtu.be/xJ34DbKyX3U

Covid 19 and Mental Health

https://sawayer.com/how-covid19-has-changed-the-mental-health-services-model/

10 Apps To Help You Cope With Anxiety

https://blog.therachat.io/anxiety

Coping With Mental Illness

https://medium.com/@jakeshaver/adjusting-to-life-with-a-mental-illness-c9355bd61e4

Mental Health Crisis

https://sawayer.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=2469&action=edit

Dementia

https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/what-dementia-symptoms-types-and-diagnosis

Alzheimer’s 

https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/what-is-alzheimers

Emotional Betrayal

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/search?q=emotional+betrayal

https://sawayer.com/the-lessons-

Death and the Human Need for A Savior

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NAMI Texas – Mental Health Resources Information

https://photos.app.goo.gl/BtMoAxAErtc69NFU7

Step Parenting

https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/family-diversity/blended-families-stepfamilies/being-a-step-parent

What is Depression: American Psychiatric Association

https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/depression/what-is-depression

National Suicide Prevention Website and Hotline

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Headspace and Timing Podcasts on Military Suicide

https://veteranmentalhealth.com/podcast/

The Texas Suicide Prevention “Just Ask” Project

https://texassuicideprevention.org/training/video-training-lessons-guides/ask-about-suicide-ask/

We Have Too Much Evil Before Us

https://sawayer.com/we-have-too-much-evil/

8 Things You Should Do When Your Divorce Is Final

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/8-things-you-should-do-when-your-divorce-is-final_n_57b768d6e4b0b51733a38119

Pre-Commitment Relational Skills

TwogetherinTexas: Pre-Marital Coaching

https://twogetherintexas.com/Pdf/WhatIsHealthyMarriage.pdf

Mayo Clinic Education: Pre-Marital Counseling 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/premarital-counseling/about/pac-20394892

 

Time Management Practice and Retirement

Why Worry About Time and Its’ Management

https://sawayer.com/time-management/

Time Management Defined by Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management

Retirement Questions and Answers

https://sawayer.com/retirement-questions-and-answers/

10 Questions To Ask About Retirement

https://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/on-retirement/articles/2017-07-10/10-questions-to-ask-about-retirement

Time and The Strategic Planning Manifesto

https://www.strategyskills.com/pdf/The-Strategic-Thinking-Manifesto.pdf 

 

Strategic Thinking Template

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Policing

When Warriors Put On A Badge

https://www.themarshallproject.org/2017/03/30/when-warriors-put-on-the-badge

Profiling School Shooters

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/when-disaster-strikes-inside-disaster-psychology/201803/profiling-school-shooters

Are Police Obsolete?

https://documentcloud.adobe.com/link/review?uri=urn:aaid:scds:US:5986d80f-1682-426e-b240-b419f8d1ff81

Damage control and Media representation and responses to police

https://ro.uow.edu.au/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1162&context=ltc

Leading Police Culture Change

https://www.policefoundatiMmon.org/leading-culture-change/

What would it take to really change the police culture?

https://www.startribune.com/what-would-it-take-to-really-change-the-police-culture/436387213/

The Un-written Code of Silence

https://www.nytimes.com/1985/06/16/weekinreview/the-unwritten-code-that-stops-police-from-speaking.html

Peelian principles of Law Enforcement

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peelian_principles

Community policing

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ComPmunity_policing

Problem-oriented policing

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Problem-oriented_policing 

LGBTQ and Sexuality

What Doctors Should Know About Gender Identity

https://youtu.be/Euegk8-WjoQ

Trans Man

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trans_man

Transgender Anti-Discrimination Reversal

https://heinonline.org/HOL/LandingPage?handle=hein.journals/djglp25&div=13&id=&pag

Male Survivors Of Sexual Abuse

https://sawayer.com/male-sex-abuse-survivors

Sexual Desire and Better Relationships

https://youtu.be/VLhMOr0AH8I

The Civil War Mentality

Is The Story Below Foreshadowing a Civil War in America?

A dash cam on a police cruiser is accidentally left on and captures some very disturbing conversations between officers who candidly share their feeling and thoughts about racial minorities, genocide, and civil war.

All video cameras are routinely reviewed by departments to determine what needs to be saved for any later prosecutions. Apparently, the conversations that were recorded were heard during this review process.

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What’s A Scottish Model of Policing?

Prior to the George Floyd killing in Minneapolis

A Florida Sheriff was looking for a better way for his officers to do their jobs with less violence toward the public and toward his officers. He did not look for a model already in use by his American peers. Instead, he looked outside to see if other countries had systems that would help. Click on the link and read about the adventure!

Happy Reading!

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Pre-Marital Counseling

Pre-Commitment counseling is an opportunity to strengthen your relationship as a couple seeking to grow your relationship skills to insure a happy life together, now and in the future!

We have partnered with the Texas Health and Human Services twogetherintexas Program that encourages getting knowledgeable about skills needed by couples, old or new, both pre-marital and pre-commitment counseling.

https://www.twogetherintexas.com/UI/HomePage.aspx

For those who have the traditional marriage goal, completion of the program through Sawayer Logistics can entitle them to a sizable discount on their marriage license! 

The cost of Pre-Commitment counseling is an investment now that yields a great return in your future.  Participating in the twogetherintexas Program will help you establish common ground and good communication.

What will you learn?  Here is a summary of a few of the topics we will cover from both the TwoTogtherTexas program and from Sawayer Logisitics

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Non-Traditional Couples

In Pre-commitment counseling, we start by looking at what each individual of the new relationship brings into this long term committment.  

Pre-committment coaching is for ALL couples regardless of their age, race, or sexual orientation.

Committment to your relationship is a step above “friends with benefits” and implies a singular, loyalty based, long term relationship, where you grow together for many years.

Pre-commitment counseling is like property insurance for your future relationship.  Before you can get a policy for losses, you have to take an inventory of your valuables before you can get a policy!

There may be real and tangible assets like money and property that each person brings into this, but there are often other in-tangible valuables like beliefs, values, pre-existing relationships with other family and friends, education, and work values as well.

If you noticed, I call this “pre-commitment” counseling and not “pre-marital counseling, and there is good reason for this. 

Today, marriage for some people is a frightening thought and before they even consider formalized marriage, they need to develop the skills and the courage to move confidently and successfully into that space. 

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So when I say “pre-commitment” counseling that is in no way intended as a way of demeaning the institution of marriage or denying marriage as a future goal. Rather, in some relationships, it serves as an added means of testing compatability.

The difference is mainly that “pre-commitment” counseling does not require a legally binding marriage relationship, with its inherent positive and negative features.

Often times, seniors, widows or very independent individuals will choose to opt out of a marital commitment for either legal or financial considerations or both. 

That is today’s reality, “for better or for worse”, but I can assure you that this specialized type of counseling will benefit each individual who participates in it both personally and as a committed couple.

Why?  Well, when we do something that requires effort, and being open and vulnerable to ourselves and another…that is the basis of all intimacy.  Intimacy of course is what we all really want in the end.

Begin your commitment today by signing up as by clicking on the Livesite icon for the sessions of pre-committment coaching.  You’re sucess as a couple is worth it!!

Transgender Anti-Discrimination Reversal

This reversal by the Trump Administration on an already vulnerable group of Americans reflects an anti-inclusionary philosophy.

The Transgender issue is something that I have personally had involvement with as both a professional and as a friend. I was raised “old school” when it came to sex and sexuality, so it has taken a lot of “unlearning” and “re-learning” to become more understanding and supportive of those who have chosen to make the physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental transitions that come with the choice to change ones sexuality.

This link reflects the continued prejudicial thinking toward the Transgender Community by our governmental leaders at the present time in history.

https://twitter.com/npr/status/1271545650958794752?s=21