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Covid-The Existential Battle -Part 2

This is the second installment on “How Covid Has Changed Us.” In Part One of this series, I discussed what our core needs are and how they have been altered by the pandemic and how we can re-think our core beliefs

https://sawayer.com/how-covid-challenges-our-beliefs/

Part 2 is a step by step chronology that shows how our exposure to Covid was not instantaneous and because of the slow developments of the virus, no unilateral effective planning was done between infected countries or within the USA.

At First We Just Keep Moving Along

In February of 2020, Covid was just a news item about a new form of influenza. We are used to dealing with influenza and controlling it without much difficulty for many years.

The Covid 19 virus emerged in Woohan, China and killed large numbers of Chinese people.

Influenza is nothing new. We have known about various strains of influenza in the USA for many years. We have been well educated about mutations of the viruses over time. Each mutation would lead to a new vaccine.

Influenza strains historically, have resulted in death for certain vulterable groups every year. It turns out that this was not your Mommas influenza.

As the months went on, the rates of transmission outside of China promted the World Health Organization to sound the alarms. Still, word “Pandemic” was held at bay, for now.

Our inconsistent information from local governments, the news, social media, and conversations with friends or our doctors concealed the truth that a world wide pandemic was in the making.

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The Reality of Today’s Militias

My First Encounter

I never used to be aware of or believe in a Militia in America. I was naive, until I actually talked to its members and now better appreciate the fact that they are very real!

My first encounter came while I was going to the TDCJ Correctional Academy in deep East Texas.

I befriended a very outgoing class member who was very enthusiastic about being a correctional officer. He seemed like just another good old boy that I frequently meet throughout much of Texas. The “salt of the earth” as we sometimes say.

During our conversations about guns and shooting, he asked me if I would like to do some target practicing at his brothers shooting range, which was close to our academy.

The weekend came, and I followed him to the range, where I met his brother and his family. His wife was very pregnant at the time and they had several little ones running around, semi-clothed.

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Effective Couples Communication

Good communications in your relationships at work, at play or in your couples life, makes the difference between success and failure!

At Sawayer Logistics we’ll help you to understand your own communication style and those of your workmates, playmates and your intimate partners.

We take a coaching or growth perspective as opposed to a psycho-therapeutic approach because or goal is your growth as individuals and couples. We don’t focus on history, fault, blame or negativity.

Our goal is improved communication and thereby improved relationships!

Interpersonal conflicts don’t tend to get better on their own.

Without guided improvement to your communication skills, prolonged communication difficulties can lead to a host of unwanted and unnecessary problems.

Long lasting communication problems can lead to misunderstandings, tensions, physical distancing, increased conflicts, personal stress, can sometimes bring an end to the relationships you need and value!

In our coaching class, you will actually practice in real time, communicating with your partner on video on critical relationship topics, and then process the interaction.

Can poor communication skills be changed to good communications?

Yes, you can go from having severe problems in your communicating to experience effective communicating. Why? Because poor communication habits can be unlearned and replaced with better ones, just like many other skills

Since each person brings their own learned style of communication into the relationship, you have twice the confusion.

For example, in a couple, the ability to effectively communicate affects everything from money management to the frequency of intimate encounters and everything in between.

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Take the Anxiety Quiz

Here is a PUBLIC DOMAIN self-test on ANXIETY that you can use to see how many areas of anxiety you have and can help you decide to seek help.

We are ready to help you get your control back, when YOU are ready to take the first step and contact us at sawayer.com Don’t continue to needlessly suffer!!

Here is the link to the free anxiety quiz.

http://www.anxiety.org/do-i-have-anxiety

Take The Depression Quiz

  • The link attached to this post is a PUBLIC DOMAIN self-test for DEPRESSION.

You can use the quiz to see how many areas you can identify with. This may help you decide if you are having some depression at the moment.

Or you can take the quiz just for fun or because you want to learn about depression and maybe even because depression runs in your family.

Of course, you may suspect that you suffer from depression, but you too afraid to look weak or that people will think that you are mentally ill.

Depression is not a sign of personal weakness at all. Depending on the severity, it is one of the most treatable problems out there.

This quiz is not a clinical diagnostic test, but the results might lead you to seek a more complete clinical diagnosis from a licensed mental health professional.

https://depression.org.nz/is-it-depression-anxiety/self-test/depression-test/

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Anxiety – How We Can Help

  1. Do you suffer from Anxiety Attacks or constant High Anxiety?

Do you know that working on your anxiety issues with a Professional Counselor is one of the best ways to help you get to the other side of most anxieties? 

Handling a state of anxiety by yourself is like using a teaspoon to move the ocean! It’s too overwhelming to do alone.

When you avoid getting help because you are afraid of looking under your anxiety you’re not being good to yourself!

Mental Health Professionals are trained to identify anxiety and provide interventions.  When you select a therapist, know what their professional credentials are. They should have at least a Master’s Degree and a professional credential to go with it, as well as experience with treating anxiety.

At Sawayer Logistics (sawayer.com) you will be assisted by a seasoned Masters Level, Texas Licensed Professional Counselor, with years of experience in the diagnosis and treatment of anxiety using non-medical treatment modalities.  If your situation would be helped with medications as well, I will work with you physician in a treatment team approach, if you provide a signed release of information.  Email me at sawayerlogistics@sawayer.com or by calling 833-729-2937 today!

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Depression – How We Can Help

Do you suffer from Depression? There is a difference between suffering from depression and being depressed! What’s the difference? Depression is a mental state that by common clinical understanding is long lasting (more than two weeks), and is not related to a specific, temporary life circumstance, but seems to exist independent of your circumstances. It hangs there, even when things seem good. Being depressed on the other hand is a short duration (less than two weeks), emotional response of feeling overwhelmed, tired, and generally sad BECAUSE of a temporary life circumstance.
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Weather Induced Trauma

 What the heck is WEATHER TRAUMA?

As a former licensed ham radio operator and a certified National Weather Service storm chaser, I have accumulated a lot of knowledge and experience, interacting with different weather events in the Texas Panhandle. As a result, I have witnessed some massive destruction of property.

Traumas from weather disasters such as floods, typhoons, excessive heat or cold, hurricanes, severe drought and tornadoes are just a few examples of what can bappen when Mother Nature brings devastation to life and property.

We tend to think of trauma as mainly being related to people who experience extreme violence from war or from sexual assault.

Trauma actually has many different sources but they all share some common elements.

Traumas have endurance over at least 6 months time.

Traumas are re-experienced when unexpected people, places or events act as triggers that lead to a re-experiencing of the original trauma.

There are physical responses to these triggers as well as emotional responses to the triggers.

Individuals become hyper sensitive to anything in the environment that hints at the possibility of the trauma recurring.

In the case of weather trauma, this can be triggered by experiencing black storm clouds, strong destructive winds, lightning, loud thunder or the even the sound of a train!

Triggers like these can re-ignite memories of past traumatic weather experiences.

People with trauma often self-medicate with drugs and alcohol or self-isolation.

Some other indications of trauma include persistent insomnia and nightmares, changes in dietary habits, weight loss, weight gain, becoming isolated, experiencing spontaneous anxiety and depression.

If you have a need to talk about a traumatic experience, contact us. We would love to listen.

Defining A Mental Health Crisis

What Exactly Is A Mental Health Crisis And Who Has Them?

A crisis is broadly defined as an acute, time-limited event, experienced as being emotionally overwhelming in response to one’s perception of an event.

Crisis’ are experienced by people of all ages, cultures, and socioeconomic conditions and may or may not be related to a specific mental disorder. 

What is a crisis for one person may not be for another person, and what is now a crisis may not have been a crisis before or would not be a crisis in a different setting.

Crisis’ can be looked upon as something that happens when your personal coping system has become out of balance and that balance cannot be regained, even though you are trying very hard to correct the imbalance.

So does having a crisis in your life mean that you have a mental illness or will be given a mental health diagnosis?

The answer depends on how long the symptoms associated with the crisis last and if they cause the individual to lose their ability to function appropriately in their day to day life.

Remember, ANYONE can experience a crisis.  For some people the crisis may not last longer that a few hours or a day, while for others, the crisis might be longer term.  

At least in the State of Texas where I have my private practice, a diagnosis can only be made by individuals who are designated as qualified Licensed Professionals of the Healing Arts under the State of Texas Health Codes, and it simply allows other mental health professionals to use a common language and code to communicate effectively with each other. 

After all, if you went to your primary care doctor for a vision problem, and he then referred you to a vision specialist, you would want him to use a diagnosis that the vision specialist would understand quickly and not use something like, “kinda blind”! 

A diagnosis is just a set of words agreed upon by mental health professionals to best described what happened to a person in crisis. Often it is temporary and can be changed. 

A diagnosis DOES NOT mean that the person is being labeled as crazy, or psycho, or that all-time favorite – cookoo.  We mental health folks even have a book called a Diagnostic and Statistical Manual that guides us to make the correct diagnosis.  Cookoo isn’t in there…..I already checked!

A diagnosis also helps insurance companies to pay the correct amount of money for any mental health services that a person may receive if they decide to get additional help after the crisis has passed.

A mental illness is generally defined as a wide range of mental health conditions or disorders that affect your mood, thinking and behavior.

Examples of mental illnesses include chronic depressive and anxiety states, schizophrenia, eating disorders and addictive behaviors and that set of behavioral criteria must be met after observing an individual’s behavior, emotional state, and thought processes. 

These disorders of mood, thinking and behavior, in most cases, last for six months or more. A person may go into a crisis state when something happens to them which may overwhelm their ability to cope with a stressful event.

It is for this reason that there is now training in Critical Incident Training, (referred to as CIT) for Peace Officers, where they learn how to work with individuals who are experiencing a mental health crisis.

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Five Short Chapters – Portia Nelson

Chapter I

I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost … I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes me forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in … it’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.