Category: Divorce
First Responder Trauma Recovery
The posts here at First Responder and Trauma Recovery will highlight the folks involved in professions that expose them to trauma at different levels.
Trauma is a concept that is fairly new, having evolved in the last 20 years and it has it’s impact on the relationships it touches go far beyond those professionals originally traumatized.
These first responder groups include, but are not limited to: Psychotherapists, Weather Forcasters, Storm Chasers, Corrections Personnel, Law Enforcment, Emergency Dispatchers, Active Military, Veterans, Emergency Room Physicians, Nurses, EMT Personnel, Firefighters, Teachers, Morticians, Medical Examiners, Social Workers, Pastoral Staff, and Hospice staff to mention just a few.
We want to explore why these particular types of jobs expose individuals to both short and long term traumas as well as give some definitions of trauma and outline of the main symptoms experienced.
We will also provide useful links to other helpful resources.
We welcome feedback and suggestions for adding additional professional groups that are trauma exposed, and any additional links to other related sites.
These Are Tryin’ Times
When Society Experiences Change It Means Tryin’ Times
Today, almost all of us and our families are experiencing daunting stress, anxiety, depression, isolation, fear, a sense of powerlessness, and hopelessness as never before.
But we have been here before!
As we can see now, the 2014 lyrics written by Donnie Hathaway in his well known song, Tryin’ Times, recorded back in 2014, still seem very applicable today. Here are the words and the music.
“These are tryin’ times” Lyrics;
Tryin’ times, is what the world is talkin’ about
You got confusion all over the land, yeah
Mother against daughter, father against son
The whole thing is gettin’ out of hand
You got confusion all over the land, yeah
Mother against daughter, father against son
The whole thing is gettin’ out of hand
But folks wouldn’t have to suffer
If there was more love for your brother
But these are tryin’ times, yeah, yeah
If there was more love for your brother
But these are tryin’ times, yeah, yeah
You got the riots in the ghetto, and it’s all around
A whole lot of things that’s wrong is going down, yes, it is
I don’t understand it from my point of view
I remember somebody say do unto others
As you’d have them do unto you
A whole lot of things that’s wrong is going down, yes, it is
I don’t understand it from my point of view
I remember somebody say do unto others
As you’d have them do unto you
And then folks wouldn’t have to suffer
If there was more love
But these are tryin’ times, yes, it is
If there was more love
But these are tryin’ times, yes, it is
People always talk about man’s inhumanity to man
But what you tryin’ to do to make this a better land?
Oh, just pick up your paper, turn on your TV
You see a lot of demonstrations for equality
But what you tryin’ to do to make this a better land?
Oh, just pick up your paper, turn on your TV
You see a lot of demonstrations for equality
But maybe folks wouldn’t have to suffer
If there was more love
But these are tryin’ times, yeah
If there was more love
But these are tryin’ times, yeah
Tryin’ times, yeah, is what the world is talkin’ about
You got confusion all over the land
You got confusion all over the land
Mother against daughter, father against son
The whole thing, is getting out of hand
Donnie Hathaway’s Tryin’ Times from his 2014 recording
During these tryin’ times, it is so important to not become emotionally isolated.
Find other people to safely talk with, laugh with and yes pray with often! Rediscovering our common humanity seems impossible.
If you find yourself feeling stressed out and are feeling hopeless, perhaps you would benefit from having someone who can listen and offer a perspective that is refreshing to you.
The convenience of tele-health coaching and counseling
As we all have learned in the last year, the technology of the internet now allows us to remain safely distanced but mostly isolated and out of contact with other people. Telehealth counseling has met the need to be heard while remaining at home. It also also offers you the additional benefit of providing affordable, convenient and confidential contact with someone who understands.
What services Sawayer Logistics provides
We provide resources to help with anxiety, depression, and communication skills.
If you would like to find out more about how we can help you find your peace and get back some degree of control, please explore our webpage at: htpps://www.sawayer.com
or call us toll free at 833-729-2937
Believing – After Divorce
Divorce can rob you of your faith in life. You can find yourself wanting to stop believing in things like marriage, love, family, in God or even worse…in your own worthiness as a man or woman.
Music and music that contains inspiring lyrics, often helps give us hope and gives us a focus that helps us heal from traumas such as divorce.
I have included the music and lyrics by Lyrics by LeAnn Rimes to her song “I Believe”, sung by Elvis Presley to this post. I hope you give it a listen!
Here are the lyrics and the song as sung by Elvis Presley
Here is the I Believe video: https://www.youtube.com/wa ch?v=sfMMpHscPmQ
I believe for every drop of rain that falls
A flower grows,
Then I know why I believe.
I believe that somewhere in the darkest night
I believe for everyone who goes astray
A candle glows.
Someone will come to show the way.
I believe,
Oh, I believe.
I believe above the storm
The smallest prayer will still be heard.
I believe that someone in that great somewhere
Hears every word
Every time I hear a newborn baby cry,
Or touch a leaf
Or see the sky,
Every time I hear a newborn baby cry,
Or touch a leaf
Or see the sky,
Then I know why I believe
Without believing in a future that exists beyond divorce or separation, or any type of loss for that matter, you are at risk of losing sight of your personal meanings in life that are critical for your healing.
In the process of opening yourself up to the raining down of your tears, the thundering noise from the legal process, and the lightning like pain to your heart, it is possible to appreciate that the simple and free things in life, you can come to believe in something beautiful again.
Looking beyond your current emotions, and outward to that “great somewhere”, often has the power to eclipse painful losses, allowing you to discover, that amid the storms of divorce or lost love relationships, or financial loss, there exists a quiet certainty and peace.
That certainty can be discovered free for the taking like the sound of a baby crying or the sound of the falling leaf that quietly flies down to the earth in a gentle breeze.
These types of things are gifts to the heart and soul that can serve to remind you that you need to look to the power of belief in your life.
At Sawayer Logistics, we can lead the way forward and help you get your bearings back amid the pain and confusion you may have from the storm of divorce.
To learn more you can reach us by licking on our webpage link at: https:/www.sawayer.com
Post Divorce Adjustment
Divorce occurs in approximately 50% of formal marital unions.
Sometimes it happens in the early years of marriage and sometimes it happens after decades. In either case, your pain and confusion from such loss can be devastating.
Legal process, involving adversarial attorneys, depositions, filing, witnesses, testimony, and attorney’s fees can leave you traumatized and usually financially busted.
It’s common to go over the experience repeatedly in your head, long after the divorce is FINAL legally.
Irrespective if you initiated it or your former spouse did. explaining what happened to children, relatives, and co-workers is difficult to say the least.
Divorce can make you feel isolated and rejected while it is occurring and long after it is over. This can lead to difficulties in your daily functioning for quite some time and often involves unexplained anxiety and depression, and even occasional suicidal thoughts, which drains you emotionally and spiritually.
Counseling or Life Coaching in these situations is NOT a luxury, it’s pretty much a necessity. Compared to the costs of paying for lawyers and court hearings because you have no choice, counseling is something you do because you want to.
Divorce is a stigmatizing and draining process, so virtual counseling and coaching to deal with your emotions can be a useful, confidential and convenient process, where you are discussing issues in the privacy of your own space, without interruptions.
As a Professional Counselor and Expert Level Coach, I can offer you solutions that help you to cope so that you can function optimally.
As someone who has personally experienced the trauma related to divorce, you will be talking to someone who really understands the reality you are experiencing. I survived and so can you!
If you are having emotional or physical symptoms that may require you considering prescription medications, I can work with your chosen medical provider, if the need arises.
You don’t need to go through the confusion and pain all by yourself. Find a competent Professional Counselor or Expert Level Life Coach to walk with you toward the future.
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