Category: Coaching

Coaching Coaching Services Building Intimacy Back • Feeling Understood • Improving Communication July 19, 2020 By Sawayer 0 Comments

Effective Couples Communication

Good communications in your relationships at work, at play or in your couples life, makes the difference between success and failure!

At Sawayer Logistics we’ll help you to understand your own communication style and those of your workmates, playmates and your intimate partners.

We take a coaching or growth perspective as opposed to a psycho-therapeutic approach because or goal is your growth as individuals and couples. We don’t focus on history, fault, blame or negativity.

Our goal is improved communication and thereby improved relationships!

Interpersonal conflicts don’t tend to get better on their own.

Without guided improvement to your communication skills, prolonged communication difficulties can lead to a host of unwanted and unnecessary problems.

Long lasting communication problems can lead to misunderstandings, tensions, physical distancing, increased conflicts, personal stress, can sometimes bring an end to the relationships you need and value!

In our coaching class, you will actually practice in real time, communicating with your partner on video on critical relationship topics, and then process the interaction.

Can poor communication skills be changed to good communications?

Yes, you can go from having severe problems in your communicating to experience effective communicating. Why? Because poor communication habits can be unlearned and replaced with better ones, just like many other skills

Since each person brings their own learned style of communication into the relationship, you have twice the confusion.

For example, in a couple, the ability to effectively communicate affects everything from money management to the frequency of intimate encounters and everything in between.

Practice Makes Perfect

You didn’t learn how to communicate overnight, and learning new patterns won’t happen overnight either. It’s a commitment to your relationship that takes effort and time. The question is simply how much you value your relationship.

Better communications skills can be learned

We learn to communicate with another person immediately after we leave the womb.

Without some type of learned language, we are left to interpret what we hear, see, smell and feel and in a constant mode of checking our physical for safety.

If your early caretakers had poor or inconsistent communication skills, then, as a child, you had to react to those styles and form your own reality about meanings. This can cause confusion and anxiety as a child and later as an adult.

Below is a link from the Gottman Institute that tests your knowledge of your partner.

https://www.gottman.com/how-well-do-you-know-your-partner/

Ted Talks video on Couples Communication

https://youtu.be/2xKXLPuju8U

Google Talks with Helen Hunt and Harville Hendricks (click and open the link below)

https://www.bing.com/ck/a?!&&p=ea9ddbfc381164ddJmltdHM9MTY4NjM1NTIwMCZpZ3VpZD0wZWFlNGE1Zi0xOTllLTY5NTItMGRkNy01OTczMThiYjY4ZWImaW5zaWQ9NTUwNA&ptn=3&hsh=3&fclid=0eae4a5f-199e-6952-0dd7-597318bb68eb&u=a1L3ZpZGVvcy9zZWFyY2g_cT1oZW5kcml4K2FuZCtodW50K2dvb2dsZSt0YWxrcyZkb2NpZD02MDM0ODk0NDEwOTAyNDE0NjAmbWlkPTJBNkNEOEFCNjQ5ODc5N0Y4MDQ4MkE2Q0Q4QUI2NDk4Nzk3RjgwNDgmdmlldz1kZXRhaWwmRk9STT1WSVJF&ntb=1

You can learn to communicate more effectively as an individual or as a couple, with our training, counseling and coaching from Sawayer Logistics at sawayer.com Start today by phoning us at 833-729-2937 or emailing us at:

sawayerlogistics@gmail.com

Coaching Coaching Services Mental Health Mind-Body Health Time Management Ecclesiastes 3: 1-22 • Juggling Deadlines • Managing Your Time • Pay No Mind to Time July 1, 2020 By Sawayer 0 Comments

Time Management

Why Worry About Time and Its Management?

Why We Juggle Time Poorly

If you feel as though you are always having to juggle time to do what is expected of you, then learning better time management can help you master time instead of time mastering you!

As an Expert Level Time Management Coach, and someone who has manage organizations of different sizes, I have learned a great deal about how we view this thing called time.

In Ecclesiastes 3 and Chapters 1-22, there is an oft quoted scripture about time.Â I reference it here, not as a advocate of any doctrine, but because it tells us that the problem of time has been discussed for a very long time and this particular scripture, gives us a perspective on time and how priorities in life often determine how we use time.Â Â

https://biblia.com/bible/esv/ecclesiastes/3/1-22

Time as a unique phenomenological structure created by the human mind’s ability to segment reality into distinct quantifiable units is not found outside of humans. As such, the mind as difficulty releasing its focus away from timed events and simply entering into a state of mind-less consciousness that feels as though boundaries have vanished.

This sensation or lack of time experience is extremely difficult to maintain for any length of time. The natural response is an experience of becoming disoriented and experiencing anxiety.

Perhaps, underlying this anxiety is another unique aspect of being human that is found inside our unique brains. The neurological structure of the brain and the mind that is contained within it, can only vicariously experience death through the witnessing of anthers’ death.

From this witnessing of the “end of another’s time”, we gain the concepts of beginning and end, past and future, as well as start and finish. Those concepts are entrenched in all languages of the world.

Time, as reflected in a watch or clock is observed to exist externally and visually, However, physicists have argued that time has no reality to it!

https://www.theguardian.com/books/2018/apr/14/carlo-rovelli-exploding-commonsense-notions-order-of-time-interview

So it seems that we are stuck between our brains ability to structure reality in discrete and quantifiable units and the possibility that we are slaves to something that is an illusion.

That said, time is the music that we all dance to from the time we are old enough to understand it and to understand our own death. I remember reading somewhere that a wise person always envisions death sitting on their shoulder because it served as a constant reminder to be as productive and authentic as we could be.

So here we are, stuck with trying to learn how to manage time, an illusion and reality at the same time. We all complain that “time flies” or there isn’t enough time to accomplish our goals.

As an Expert Time Management Coach, I can help you develop the tools and strategies to at least make the most of your time.

Time, once spent, is forever gone. So wasting it by doing meaningless or unproductive repetitive acts is like squandering the seconds, minutes, hours, and days of your life. people sitting on chair with brown wooden table

Below is the first of many reference links to get you considering how to implement time management. This one comes from the good folks at Wiki. YouTube will also be made available in the YouTube section of Sawayer Logistics.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management

Time Management Strategies: How to Get It All Done If You Use Your Mind by Living Order SA on YouTube

https://youtu.be/-opxaWMoZxo

Coaching Coaching Services Counseling Services Depression Divorce Individual Counseling coaching • counseling • Couples • Divorce • Intimacy • Post Divorce Challenges June 30, 2020 By Sawayer 0 Comments

Post Divorce Adjustment

Divorce occurs in approximately 50% of formal marital unions.

Sometimes it happens in the early years of marriage and sometimes it happens after decades. In either case, your pain and confusion from such loss can be devastating.

Legal process, involving adversarial attorneys, depositions, filing, witnesses, testimony, and attorney’s fees can leave you traumatized and usually financially busted.

It’s common to go over the experience repeatedly in your head, long after the divorce is FINAL legally.

Irrespective if you initiated it or your former spouse did. explaining what happened to children, relatives, and co-workers is difficult to say the least.

Divorce can make you feel isolated and rejected while it is occurring and long after it is over. This can lead to difficulties in your daily functioning for quite some time and often involves unexplained anxiety and depression, and even occasional suicidal thoughts, which drains you emotionally and spiritually.

Counseling or Life Coaching in these situations is NOT a luxury, it’s pretty much a necessity. Compared to the costs of paying for lawyers and court hearings because you have no choice, counseling is something you do because you want to.

Divorce is a stigmatizing and draining process, so virtual counseling and coaching to deal with your emotions can be a useful, confidential and convenient process, where you are discussing issues in the privacy of your own space, without interruptions.

As a Professional Counselor and Expert Level Coach, I can offer you solutions that help you to cope so that you can function optimally.

As someone who has personally experienced the trauma related to divorce, you will be talking to someone who really understands the reality you are experiencing. I survived and so can you!

If you are having emotional or physical symptoms that may require you considering prescription medications, I can work with your chosen medical provider, if the need arises.

You don’t need to go through the confusion and pain all by yourself. Find a competent Professional Counselor or Expert Level Life Coach to walk with you toward the future.

8 Things You Should Do When The Divorce Is Final

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/8-things-you-should-do-when-your-divorce-is-final_n_57b768d6e4b0b51733a38119

Coaching Couples Counseling Before You Close the Deal • Breaking Up Is Easy To Do • Long Term Connection June 22, 2020 By Sawayer 0 Comments

Non-Traditional Couples

In Pre-commitment counseling, we start by looking at what each individual of the new relationship brings into this long term committment.

Pre-committment coaching is for ALL couples regardless of their age, race, or sexual orientation.

Committment to your relationship is a step above “friends with benefits” and implies a singular, loyalty based, long term relationship, where you grow together for many years.

Pre-commitment counseling is like property insurance for your future relationship. Before you can get a policy for losses, you have to take an inventory of your valuables before you can get a policy!

There may be real and tangible assets like money and property that each person brings into this, but there are often other in-tangible valuables like beliefs, values, pre-existing relationships with other family and friends, education, and work values as well.

If you noticed, I call this “pre-commitment” counseling and not “pre-marital counseling, and there is good reason for this.

Today, marriage for some people is a frightening thought and before they even consider formalized marriage, they need to develop the skills and the courage to move confidently and successfully into that space.

So when I say “pre-commitment” counseling that is in no way intended as a way of demeaning the institution of marriage or denying marriage as a future goal. Rather, in some relationships, it serves as an added means of testing compatability.

The difference is mainly that “pre-commitment” counseling does not require a legally binding marriage relationship, with its inherent positive and negative features.

Often times, seniors, widows or very independent individuals will choose to opt out of a marital commitment for either legal or financial considerations or both.

That is today’s reality, “for better or for worse”, but I can assure you that this specialized type of counseling will benefit each individual who participates in it both personally and as a committed couple.

Why? Well, when we do something that requires effort, and being open and vulnerable to ourselves and another…that is the basis of all intimacy. Intimacy of course is what we all really want in the end.

Begin your commitment today by signing up as by clicking on the Livesite icon for the sessions of pre-committment coaching. You’re sucess as a couple is worth it!!

Coaching Coaching Services What is Coaching • What is Counseling April 21, 2020 By Sawayer 0 Comments

Is Life Coaching For You ?

In a previous post titled “How do life coaching and counseling differ”, I contrasted the two modalities of services that we provide here at Sawayer Logistics (sawayer.com).

In this post, I want to be a little more focused on what life coaching offers specifically. I have attached a link below for further reading if you are interested.

So Life Coaching or Personal Coaching is a pretty broad term and is often used in several specialized areas such as nutritional coaching, fitness coaching, writing coaching, financial coaching, parent coaching, etc.

While the focus can be different for each, “coaching” specialty, in general, coaching per se, has it’s own common elements.

Because any expert can be a coach thru their own training and life experiences in a particular area of specialization, by and large, there are NO STATE LICENSES is required to provide those coaching services. So there is good news and bad news. The “good news” is that coaches, thru the internet, can sell their services to any willing customer, world-wide! Wow, talk about a customer base!. The “bad news” is that if you are looking for a governmental entity to re-assure you that the coach you employ is licensed, your pretty much out of luck.

HOWEVER, don’t despair just yet because many professional coaches have taken formal training in how to provide effective coaching by using what are called “Best Practices” recognized by most credentialing entities in the field of coaching. A professional coach can earn various “professional certificate”, that will confer the title or credential of “expert level life coach”.

It’s important to remember that the focus of coaching is growing your capacity for success in the area you are interested in. Coaching is “future focused” and builds on your “existing strengths”. As such, there is not much looking back on where you failed. Rather we look at where you are right now and how we can get you to your goal. This involves lots of things from writing out your plans, using vision boards, keeping a journal, and determining some way to measure your progress in a concrete way.

If your goal is to have better health thru nutritional coaching then we will look at measurable numbers. As an example, initial lab test results for cholesterol or high sugar levels, or blood pressure levels form the baseline.

Together we then set new goals to improve those numbers thru nutrition, exercise, diet and improved self image.

Hopefully, you now have a fairly specific idea of how coaching works. I look forward to reading any comments or questions you post in the comments section. Click on the link below for even more useful information on this topic!

https://www.lifecoaching.com/pages/life_coaching.html

Fees for coaching are based on how much time we spend together and can be done on a half-hour or hourly basis at the rate of $50 per 30 minutes. And of course, there is a lot you will do on your own, between our sessions.

Please feel free to contact us if you need more information regarding fees and scheduling an virtual coaching appointment.

Coaching Mental Health Soul Food April 20, 2020 By Sawayer 0 Comments